Off the floor: The ultimate test for lovers

No love birds I know, have ever survived a dance partnership that they started together. In the few years that I was involved with dancesport, there was only one that I heard of.

I saw the all too familiar symptoms, the mood is gone and the night is going to end in disaster if I don’t suggest that we leave right then. Too bad, I was enjoying catching up with my swing dancing classmates… cute ones too, but alas… friends first.

I was hoping that the nature of swing dancing and the fun setting of Cat’s corner will be a good place for couples to start out together, how I have erred. Basic human emotions still trumps everything else. Jealousy, pride, fear of rejection served with women’s need to feel secure while comparing her man to the others. You will always end up with a nagging girlfriend.

That will happen, if the woman is better than the man. Statistically, women have always excelled at the beginning because they need only learn how to dance, whilst the man have to dance AND lead. You see our specie’s problem?

There was an interview with the only famous couple known to have survived this type of inequality, where the woman was already a top dancer but decided to start fresh with her newbie husband. The lady gave our dance sphere the most important advice ever. “Do not try to teach or correct your husband, leave that job to the coach.” Can you let it slide when you feel righteous? Can you hold your tongue when you think you know more than the other? More importantly, can you educate with the purest intention of helping, without thinking or knowing that you are superior?

Dance constitutes only of passions and feelings, reason and love are only functional when you are not dancing.