Lead

I've always been curious as to what kind of lead I have and have asked around alot of people. Some are nice and just tells flatter some just don't know the difference. I want to know what I feel like so I can improve on it.

My romanian roomate Alexandra provided some insightful tip into my lead as she knows me enough and we hate/like each other enough to be direct and frank. She said she feel like she's expect to know what she should be doing. As if I am treating her like an equal.

Perhaps I need to guide more, to give that sense of security to girls, but then again it's up to the style of the partner. I believe that if the partner is very independent we'd match perfectly. Now the question comes. Does the lead/follow style preference a direct translation of your personality and perference in a sexual partner?